I Am Finally Getting It!
You know, I used to look at my profile on these different sites and say hey, why am I not getting any hits? I realize why now: I am not being fake. I refuse to be fake or to not be true to myself. Yeah, I try to joke around, but if you ask me what I want I am honest about it. To top it off in my picture I am smiling. What the heck? You mean, they smile too, even if you are not doing a thing for them. LOL. Look fellas, if you do not want anything serious do not apply. I am not a sperm depository Do not waste my time. Do not waste your time. If you want a friend, then sure nothing serious is necessaire- a pure platonic friend, that is cool. Other than that, umm float on.
See, I used to think that I was too stiff, maybe I was stuck up, or maybe I am a nerd. Hmmm. I honestly may be a nerd and a bit goofy, heck I might be a bit stuck up. LOL. Oh well. Anyway, at any rate, I have decided that it is OK. Whateva. I do not have to have a lot of guys interested in me on these sites. It is cool. A lot of the guys on there are trying to hit it up and hit the door. It truly is cool. The sad thing is these guys who behave like this are not 20 nothings, they are in their late 30's - 40's. I know men like to feel virile and sexy and desired, but dang son. Don't you realize you ARE going to get old? Why be old, used and worn out and maybe possibly ill in a hospital or with your mama, your sister them who are putting up with your cranky butt? I mean, on the real, I am not going to want you. Why not someone you decided to share yourself and your life with caring for you and knowing that you like fresh sheets that smell like sandalwood oil and 3 spoons of sugar in your coffee and a lot of creamer early in the morning? Why choose that getting used by a young girl life cause anyone in a two mile radius can tell that she really don't want you but she will sure use you life? I have uncles who live/lived like this. In the end, we, the fam, ended up getting them and giving them peace and a lil' joy. They agonize often over the "good" woman that got away cause they were young and stupid. Thay are the ones who told me to go into deeper waters and be available to different races. I did not want to do that though. I kept blaming myself, for the entire situation.
I finally get it now. It is not me. Not in the way that I was thinking. I am a good woman. I do have standards and no they are not superficial. I am waiting for the man who wants to do right for and by me. Why, you ask? Cause I am that good woman who does for her man. I have a good and full life. I follow God, I love my fam, friends and myself. I look out for my community. I am a good, loving, caring, fun, full figured woman who prefers her life with little to no drama.
See, guys are always saying that they want a good woman. What is really occuring to me is that guys do not know what in the heck that is. A woman who does not have kids, takes care of her own life, prefers to laugh than to argue? One who is respectful of you but assertive, what son! That is not how black women are suppose to act. I mean, she is not cussing you out or acting a fool, rolling her eyes or going off about a bunch of petty nonsense? No son, that woman there ain't for you.
For a lot of guys, until you grow up, you are right. I will become a better person, I will be a good woman. I will not stop being myself to make you comfy around me. If you ain't comfy with me being me you DO need to float on.
I finally get it. I though for the longest time it was my weight, and to an extent for some guys it may be. However, weight can be loss. A nasty attitude and a tendency to cut you down is something that can be a lot more damaging, a lot more hurtful and frankly a lot harder of a habit to break. Then I thought it was my mouth, cause I can be a smart butt, but it is all in fun. I ain't trying to hurt you. But you know what, I think that it is my confidence and it is the fact that though there are some guys who like women who have character, morals and love to laugh there are a lot of guys who could not identify a good woman if she stood in his face and smiled all dang day. He can easily recognize Mz. Liar, Mz. Good Sex but Stupid, Mz. Gold digger, and let us not forget Mz. New Booty, he can easily recognize them, but when he gets face to face with a "Good " woman who loves and respects herself and would gladly do the same for him he is instantly clueless. What I have heard is that there is little to no fire there. I chuckle when I hear that ignorance, what you mean is the good girl does not try to play you for a fool and goes off on your silly behind only when it is really necessary. Truly stupid. The sad thing is that they always get that you are the "good" grown, intelligent, sweet woman that they DO want when you walk away, or they do. A few months, a year later your phone is ringing and you hear regret and clumsy attempts to fix the disrespectful things that they said or did. To bad the guy does not grown man up in the beginning.
Guys, stop regretting and get to know the woman and her mind and stop just thinking with Mr. Small Head. Get to know the woman. It will make your life so much easier. Trust me the "good" women are out there, you just keep passing her by.
Kita
See, I used to think that I was too stiff, maybe I was stuck up, or maybe I am a nerd. Hmmm. I honestly may be a nerd and a bit goofy, heck I might be a bit stuck up. LOL. Oh well. Anyway, at any rate, I have decided that it is OK. Whateva. I do not have to have a lot of guys interested in me on these sites. It is cool. A lot of the guys on there are trying to hit it up and hit the door. It truly is cool. The sad thing is these guys who behave like this are not 20 nothings, they are in their late 30's - 40's. I know men like to feel virile and sexy and desired, but dang son. Don't you realize you ARE going to get old? Why be old, used and worn out and maybe possibly ill in a hospital or with your mama, your sister them who are putting up with your cranky butt? I mean, on the real, I am not going to want you. Why not someone you decided to share yourself and your life with caring for you and knowing that you like fresh sheets that smell like sandalwood oil and 3 spoons of sugar in your coffee and a lot of creamer early in the morning? Why choose that getting used by a young girl life cause anyone in a two mile radius can tell that she really don't want you but she will sure use you life? I have uncles who live/lived like this. In the end, we, the fam, ended up getting them and giving them peace and a lil' joy. They agonize often over the "good" woman that got away cause they were young and stupid. Thay are the ones who told me to go into deeper waters and be available to different races. I did not want to do that though. I kept blaming myself, for the entire situation.
I finally get it now. It is not me. Not in the way that I was thinking. I am a good woman. I do have standards and no they are not superficial. I am waiting for the man who wants to do right for and by me. Why, you ask? Cause I am that good woman who does for her man. I have a good and full life. I follow God, I love my fam, friends and myself. I look out for my community. I am a good, loving, caring, fun, full figured woman who prefers her life with little to no drama.
See, guys are always saying that they want a good woman. What is really occuring to me is that guys do not know what in the heck that is. A woman who does not have kids, takes care of her own life, prefers to laugh than to argue? One who is respectful of you but assertive, what son! That is not how black women are suppose to act. I mean, she is not cussing you out or acting a fool, rolling her eyes or going off about a bunch of petty nonsense? No son, that woman there ain't for you.
For a lot of guys, until you grow up, you are right. I will become a better person, I will be a good woman. I will not stop being myself to make you comfy around me. If you ain't comfy with me being me you DO need to float on.
I finally get it. I though for the longest time it was my weight, and to an extent for some guys it may be. However, weight can be loss. A nasty attitude and a tendency to cut you down is something that can be a lot more damaging, a lot more hurtful and frankly a lot harder of a habit to break. Then I thought it was my mouth, cause I can be a smart butt, but it is all in fun. I ain't trying to hurt you. But you know what, I think that it is my confidence and it is the fact that though there are some guys who like women who have character, morals and love to laugh there are a lot of guys who could not identify a good woman if she stood in his face and smiled all dang day. He can easily recognize Mz. Liar, Mz. Good Sex but Stupid, Mz. Gold digger, and let us not forget Mz. New Booty, he can easily recognize them, but when he gets face to face with a "Good " woman who loves and respects herself and would gladly do the same for him he is instantly clueless. What I have heard is that there is little to no fire there. I chuckle when I hear that ignorance, what you mean is the good girl does not try to play you for a fool and goes off on your silly behind only when it is really necessary. Truly stupid. The sad thing is that they always get that you are the "good" grown, intelligent, sweet woman that they DO want when you walk away, or they do. A few months, a year later your phone is ringing and you hear regret and clumsy attempts to fix the disrespectful things that they said or did. To bad the guy does not grown man up in the beginning.
Guys, stop regretting and get to know the woman and her mind and stop just thinking with Mr. Small Head. Get to know the woman. It will make your life so much easier. Trust me the "good" women are out there, you just keep passing her by.
Kita
posted by Enigma | 7:21 AM
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